Accepting that you are hurting it a step to a healing process, it a step to self discovery, it a step of accepting that you are not weak, it a step of allowing your body, your heart to feel the pain, it a step to allow the healing process to take over. A journey that is not easy to start because it comes with so many mixed emotions that you might not like and comes with the facts that you need to accept about yourself.
We all have been hurt in a different ways in our life, we have been disappointed. We have done things that we are not proud of, life is like that. No one can tell you how to heal, no one has a right to tell you that your pain is smaller then theirs, No one has a right to say at-least your pain is better then what has happened to me.
Let me tell you about myself, I used to think that my problems where smaller, I never used to talk about my pain/ feelings and I still struggle today to do that because I thought there are people who have real problems then me, I used to think that I am being a brats, I am being ungrateful to God if I cry and say I am not okay or complained about my situation. Little did I know how wrong I was, I was so wrong , all I did was to hurt and destroy myself not even realizing it.
Accept the pain and also learning from that pain, emotional pain, physical pain, talk to someone that won’t judge you, find someone that you trust to talk too. Vent as must as you need too and accept the feedback that resonate with you, understand that you are not perfect, you will never be perfect. Accept that it has happened, do some self evaluation, what role you have played in that situation that leaded to this pain. Don’t rush yourself into healing, cry if you have too.
No one can tell you how to heal, no one can say how long it may take you to heal because it a process that teach us to be very patient with ourselves, to be kind to ourselves, to love ourselves better. It a beautiful process I believe. One day, you wake up very energized and you want to discover something new about your character and fulfill it but other days you wake up feeling very demotivated , you feel like a failure , you feel like the whole world is against you, you feel helpless. You don’t want to go out and have fun because you think/ feel like everybody can see how hurt you are, you think your problems are exposed to the world. The truth of the matter no is that one knows how you feel besides you. Until you are ready to tell them how you feel.
If I knew in an early age the importance of talking about my feelings without fear maybe I would have turned out being even a better person then I am now, but none the less, I am here now, I am learning, I am evolving, it a journey.
No one has it together, we are all hurting in different ways, we are all in a process of healing and accepting ourselves as we are. Lacking self confidence , having trust issues , being tired emotionally, wanting to cry because you are tired of paying bills alone, being fed up. You are allowed to feel it, accept it and please work on it. Take it one step at the time, take it easy, don’t rush yourself life is not a race, it meant to be enjoyed with it disappointments.
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