When I was a child (years back) I never thought I would say I am unhappy, I never thought life would be complicated, I never thought I would make decision that would hurt other people and affect their self esteem.
Growing up has taught me that no one has it together and it has proven to me that happiness comes from within, I needed to know myself 1st so that I can be able to source my own happiness. I needed to believe in myself 1st so that I can be able to relay on other people. Same thing as happiness. You need to experience it, know it thereafter you can be able to differentiate it from being unhappy or sad.
The unfortunate thing about happiness, no one tell you that you need to be happy, no one teachers you how to be happy. We all know that it just a feeling that happens within us, because something good has actually happened to you and you smile, you laugh and you talk about it frequently. You can have friends, family and a partner that will always be next to you when you need support you can trust them and lean on them when things fall apart or when you need to share your good news with but if you decide that you won’t do anything about their presence in your life, if you won’t appreciate them, if you become consistently unhappy even when they are around you that clearly indicate that it has nothing to do with them, it has everything to do with you. The bitter and the sad person is you. Maybe you have to for us on self prospective on what makes you unhappy, why are you unhappy even if you have people who love you around you.
Until you decide that you need to shine and smile again you will blossom, you will laugh, you will feel lighter. 
What has help me through out my journey is to love myself unconditionally. I needed to talk to myself on a daily basis practice to be gentle and care towards myself. I needed the experience, how does it makes me feel if I showered myself with present each time I pass a mile stone in my life, if I constantly tell myself that I am enough and beautiful, I realized how much I loved it, I started to enjoy my own company because I stopped judging myself, I stopped punishing myself for things that I have no control over.
When I am sad, I allow myself and my body to feel it and at the same time I try not to punish myself by dwelling on it. I move on and start again, try again. I sometimes go out for a glass of wine and pizza that heals me, makes me happy. You gotta know what makes you smile, what cheers you up, that is why I say happiness start within you, come from you. Understand yourself 1st, love yourself 1st. Do the things that you like/ love yourself 1st. It prevents disappointments, it prevents you from having expectations that might not be met.
I love flowers, they heal my soul, they brighten up my day. I have so many thing that heals me I pick and choose which one I want to do at that particular time, I need to decide which one will makes me smile.
Now I know that nobody takes away your happiness. Start taking ownership of your own joy and happiness. Start embracing the small things 1st. Always practice gratitude it does give one joy believe me on that.
#doingitforthesoul.
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